Posted: 23 April 2010 at 11:18am | IP Logged | 12
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Mike O'B, Hey, I AM gay-married! When Lynn and I got married back in 1993, I compromised on having the services at her church, the United Church of Canada, which is by-and-large ultra-liberal. I believe they were the first major church in Canada to ordain women and homosexuals. Those decisions split that church along liberal and conservative lines, and there were individual parishes that would not accept women and/or homosexual ministers. I was to learn later that Knox Metropolitan in Edmonton was okay with women in the pulpit, but not with gays. The reverend that married us -- we'll call him Clark -- was a fine fellow. Lovely young wife, two kids. Lynn adored him, as she had been attending his congregation for years and was part of the choir. After our engagement I adopted Knox as my church home, too, although I must admit as a good Anglican I was never 100 percent comfortable with the United. ("There are no prayer bars in this sanctuary, Lynn. Don't your knees hurt when you pray? You don't kneel when you pray?! You're all pagans!" But I digress...) After we left Canada in 1996 we kept in touch with the business of Knox for the first little bit, but life gets busy and old ties drift away. Then in 1998 we got the wedding invitation from a University chum that he was getting married. At Knox. By Clark. Lynn was overjoyed! She was really looking forward to seeing her friend, her minister and the old church again. I was one of the groomsmen, so at the wedding reception I was at the head table while Lynn sat in the crowd. Thankfully, not alone: Clark sat with her, which was delightful and gave them a chance to catch-up on old times. To this day I regret not being there for this part of the conversation: Clark: "So, are you okay with the news?" Lynn: "News?" Clark: "The news. That I'm gay." On the list of things that Lynn expected might come up at dinner with the Rev, I somehow doubt that was in the top ten. It appears a few days earlier Clark had come out of the closet to the elders, and he would be officially telling the congregation tomorrow. You see, Knox wasn't about to hire a homosexual minister all those years ago, so Clark had a marriage of convenience to nail the interview, and brought two children into the world along the way to keep up appearances. After 10 years, he'd decided to stop living the lie. Every now and then I thrill to the thought that I've been living the last 17 years in sin -- Clark got the job under false pretenses, so the marriage he performed doesn't count, right? -- but in the current California political climate, it is so much more delightful to be a beneficiary of "gay marriage".
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